Burning Mouth Holidays

We have covered a bit of this ground before, and again I urge you to communicate, take the rest (and medicines) you need, and use your coping strategies to get through the stress of the holidays.

But this year is different.

Due to COVID-19, you may be experiencing different stresses, some that are caused by the upturning of all of your carefully laid plans and traditions. No extended family visits, hugs from people you haven’t seen for a long time, and no shared meals for many.

Presents? Oh, don’t get me started! The logistics of getting everything to everyone while observing pandemic protocol, the uncertainty as to whether things will get there in time…We haven’t even started thinking about the protocol of opening presents! I think that not being able to see that loved one’s face as they open those presents you so carefully chose and sent to them may be one of the more poignant consequences of holidays in a pandemic.

But we are in it for the long run, aren’t we? Waiting for that vaccination to make things safer and better and praying that everyone we love will make it to that time.

My point, my Burning Mouth Syndrome brothers and sisters, is that it is all stressful. Life right now is stressful and if you are experiencing more pain than usual, you may be suffering a “flare” that is caused by stress.

What can you do?

Make sure you are getting plenty of sleep. Take your medicines faithfully if you have been prescribed them. Now is not the time to let depression from chronic pain take over, so schedule a telehealth conversation with your counselor or therapist if you have one. Keep your coping strategies at hand (Cold drinks, an Advil or Tylenol, meditation, exercise, whatever works for you!)

But what about family Zooms or FaceTime calls? How do I handle those when talking seems to make me burn even more?

Yeah, that’s a hard one, but think about what you really want to say to precious family members and say it. Don’t waste your pain tolerance on chitchat if you can avoid it. Be frank with your family about your pain and what helps and what doesn’t. They love you and will understand if you are a bit quiet on a call or conference as long as what you do say comes from the heart.

And that is what the holidays are all about, whether the folks you love are near or far, virtual or in real life. Love is rarely an unwelcome present.

Happy Holidays to all of you, and I am praying that 2021 becomes a blessing to this world, even if it takes a while.

9 thoughts on “Burning Mouth Holidays

  1. Pingback: Another BMS blogger, very informative! – One Breath at a Time, One day at a time

  2. Thank you for your post and for the encouragement. I rarely talk to anyone about my burning mouth. Reading your posts reminds me I am not alone, someone understands and to take better care of myself. The fear of the virus has raised my anxiety and thus increased the pain over the months.
    We prayed for a cure, a vaccine, now praying it becomes available to all as quickly as possible.


    • Ginny,
      Thank you for your kind words. As a volunteer in this blog and also for the Burning Mouth Support website, I am trying to find some positive action in a situation that can seem hopeless. I am so happy it has been helpful to you, and I hope you find the time and will to make things better for yourself, and that your anxiety will ease as time goes on.
      I join you in praying that everyone is protected soon and that life can proceed in whatever way “normal” becomes.
      Take care, and keep checking in. If I hear anything new, so will you!


  3. 1000 mg of L- lysine and 600 mg of alpha lipoic acid per day and my burning mouth syndrome is completely gone. Stop taking the regimen and it comes back. That’s my trial experience. Hope it helps someone.


    • Hi, Mime!
      Thanks for dropping by and I am glad you have found something that works for you. The L-lysine and ALA have been supplements that many BMS sufferers have tried (me too) but only a few have reported complete clearance or remission, even if they find it helps their burning levels. I had no discernible change with two years of taking it, but different things help different people so it is always good to know about all of the possibilities. How long have you had BMS? Do you have any suspicion what caused it?
      Good luck to you, and don’t mess with success, right?

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      • My BMS started A few months after I had a heart attack. My doctors and I thought there was no damage but my immune system seems to have taken a hit. It was only about a month before I found my cure.

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      • Is it Mime, or Mike? It took me a minute to realize this was the same person and you were answering my question! Mike, I don’t know how old you are, but your case is unusual, but probably not unique. I hope your cure continues to work for you and good luck!

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  4. Hi , I’ve had bms for 2 years happened after dental work. Only burning on side were dental work was done.
    I chew gum all day. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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    • Linda,
      I am so sorry your are suffering with this. I don’t know anything about your health or allergy history, and of course, I am not a doctor, but I can say your experience is unusual in primary BMS. There is such a thing as a contact allergy to many materials dentists use in doing their work, and you can read a bit more about this in my Eugenol article. The abstract it refers to is mainly about damage to the lingual nerve, but there was also a section about dental materials that can cause burning pain for people who are allergic to them. It may be worth talking with your dentist and having a patch allergy test to rule it out.
      I am not a huge fan of chewing gum for BMS, although I will resort to PUR Xyitol gum occasionally. I find that most of the time when I think I need gum, I really need hydration so I reach for cold water to drink first. It’s a good, healthy coping strategy to try and since burning in one side is not a hallmark of BMS, talk with your dentist and doctor about other possibilities. Wouldn’t it be great if it was something else that was treatable or curable?
      Let me know how you are, and in the meantime, take a look at the coping strategies and pain diary on the BMS Support website. Something there may help!

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